If it’s your second time around, many wedding experts say it’s perfectly fine to think fresh and to ignore the advice of family and friends. Besides, you’ll be paying for everything, right?
By Jon Craig
If it’s your second time around, many wedding experts say it’s perfectly fine to think fresh and to ignore the advice of family and friends.
Besides, you’ll be paying for everything, right?
Because the bride-to-be is bound to be as confident as a cougar, she’ll want to dress sexy, but not necessarily shy away from white, according to Angela Guitard, owner of Angela’s.
Ms. Guitard knows firsthand. “I’ve been there,’’ she said with a grin. She remarried 12 years ago and wore a lacy dress.
As the Four Tops played “Ain’t No Woman Like the One I Got” in the background, the store owner displayed some Temperley garments that caught the attention of a mild-mannered reporter. “Alice Eve” and “Gold Celestine Classic” dresses were among Angela’s favorites: They sell for about $2,000 apiece.
“It’s not conventional at all,’’ Ms. Guitard said of the trend to dress sassy and in short or tea-length gowns the second time around. Beach-friendly outfits also work for a destination wedding, she said. “White is not out (but) I don’t know anyone getting married in black wedding dresses.’’
Repeat contenders tend to prefer smaller ceremonies, according to those asked to officiate. The services are often more family-oriented and inclusive of children from prior marriages, according to the Rev. Daniel Love, associate pastor at Rye Presbyterian Church. “They tend to be a little bit low-key,’’ he said. “They’re definitely smaller, (but) more intimate.’’
The ceremony is apt to incorporate more family members. The gathering of 100 or fewer guests can be accommodated in the church’s smaller sanctuary or in someone’s backyard.
Repeat vow-writers also have been known to include their pets, most commonly by having them ferry the rings down the aisle.
Pre-nuptial agreements are “increasingly prevalent,’’ said Rye attorney Barbara Cummings. “There really isn’t a boilerplate.’’ The agreements can be structured to suit individual needs.
They are usually a smart idea for anyone getting married again, because even if you don’t have money or assets now – you may have it later. The assets could be from business interests one inherits, or from a business just starting up.
For second timers, the couple might have children from previous marriages to protect in a pre-nuptial agreement. There also may be retirement assets that need to be spelled out.
When it comes to jewelry, those planning their second weddings often are in the market for more than just the ring. Not only do the older couples come in to shop together, according to Kathy Zaltas of Zaltas Gallery in Mamaroneck.
But, they often walk out with other bling, particularly earrings and necklaces.
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